Thanksgiving, Christmas, and New Year’s day create a busy time of the year for Americans. The hustle and bustle of the holidays have come and gone for now. Not so fast though, there are other types of busy that fill in the gap. This type of busy can haunt us and take our dreams. It’s being busy on a day-to-day basis doing things that will not get you closer to a goal.
Being “busy” can be an excuse to not commit to what you really want. Trust me, I’ve used the busy card. Truth is, we do the things we really want to be doing. After all, if you put your stake in the ground and get “busy” taking action to reach a goal, then you risk shame, embarrassment, or failure. Failure is relative, you only fail when you quit. For now, consider missing the mark as an essential part of an experiment that needed to happen so that you could learn a valuable piece of information and keep going.
If you like to say you’re “too busy to get (said thing) done” then I’d like to encourage you to take a look at your day. You may find that you have more time than you think (surprise surprise) or you may find that you’re spending your time on things to keep you in a cycle of busy (aka procrastination).
If you hide behind the badge of too busy, then you never have to commit to your true goals (because you don’t have time. See how that works?). Your brain chatter may tell you it’s hard to juggle “all of the things” and what a way to not address any of your goals by tying them up into “the busy knot!”
Things that are not true include:
I couldn’t work out because I didn’t have time.
I got off of work too late to (insert excuse).
I couldn’t figure out what I would eat tomorrow because I didn’t have time.
Have you used these or something similar?
What’s worse than setting a goal and missing the mark? You guessed it…not even trying. What if you made this the year of betting on you?
People choose to set goals in many ways, including goal setting workshops, vision boards and New Year’s resolutions. I write my goals on scratch paper, napkins, receipts, copy paper, journals…you name it. I write those suckers out one million times. And I just rewrite them and rewrite them until I reach them.
This year my personal goal is to work more as a wellness coach (I want to coach full-time), lose weight, and work on my thoughts more than ever before (some thoughts in my brain have been left unmanaged). I unconsciously allowed my brain to help me produce results by default. I’m super thrilled about managing my brain on purpose moving forward.
What are we telling ourselves? Are our thoughts keeping us small or helping us to reach our goals?
One way to answer this is to do a brain dump. A brain dump is when you write down all of the thoughts that come to your mind on paper. Write the thoughts without judgement. It’s perfectly fine to destroy the paper when you are done if that will help you write more freely.
Some thoughts, once written on paper, we can quickly adjust. Other thoughts we may need a hand with them to think better thoughts. Two of my favorite people in the business of getting your mind in check are Andrea Hanson and Brooke Castillo. Check them out.
What’s amazing is that we have this unique feature as humans where we self-fulfill the chatter in our heads. Because NOT self fulfilling would be weird actually. It’s a beautiful feature; but the million-dollar question is “what are we self-fulfilling?” Do we need to rewrite the chatter going on in our heads? Up leveling our thoughts is possible and no one is immune.
Case and point. I recently realized that I struggle with feeling out of control. I was supposed to be married, have 2.5 kids, a white picket fence (kidding) and a sun room to accommodate dealing with seasonal affective disorder. While I manage seasonal affective disorder quite well, the rest of the things have not happened in my life.
I can live in worry or I can believe that everything happens in its season (which is also why I cannot expect to grow watermelon in the winter).
If there’s a gap between what we want to be doing and what we are doing then we need to find out what our brains are telling us!
After all (yes! it’s cliche) if you believe it, you can achieve it.
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